Contemplating if I should write or not. But why not? I've been contemplating for the past few years about how easy it is to spread negative things online. But that's a writing for another time. I just want to share our story of hobbies.

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My wife and I sat down together watching The International 2018. Then when True Sight came out, we would watch it together again. Then The International 2019. Then another True Sight. She followed the scene a bit. She loved n0tail. She loved Puppey. We were both sad when Puppey missed The International.

But then we got older and decided to have a kid, which means that we don't get as many hours as we used to. I don't. Haven't played Dota in years because of how time-consuming it is. I don't want to play just because I want to play. I want to play uninterrupted. Focused. But I can't afford the time and focus. So I stopped.

This is not a sad story. Dota will be there when my kids are in their 20s.

Now I've switched games to Balatro. My wife knows Balatro a bit even though I don't talk about it as much. Daily stuff dwarfs the game. It's not a big part of me anymore. Yet she pays attention anyway. She recognizes the Baron + Mime trink-trink sound. She knows when I am having a good time.

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My wife's hobbies changed too. She used to listen to Turkish songs. Then Russian songs. Now it's Indian songs. I know the lyrics and the melodies. Her playlist became mine. I might not be able to differentiate Malayalam, Tamil, Telugu, or Hindi, but I can sing the song.

She used to love making music. I learned about FL Studio and how to crack the plugins for her. Then she moved on to Blender; I learned how to offload renders. Now she is interested in different things: cooking or making her own clothing. My happiness comes from supporting her hobbies. I know her cooking hobby partly comes from me. I love to eat good food. And I love her cooking.

Maybe she knows it, maybe she doesn't. Maybe she'll read this, maybe she won't. But, I too, built my hobbies around her. I chose Balatro because it's the kind of game you can stop anytime. So that I can stop anytime and go with her to the textile store.

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Let one of your hobbies be to love your significant other's hobbies.